A Letter To Your Younger Self
If you could write a letter to your younger self, what would you say? What might have helped you back then if you had insight into what the future would be like?
Growing up, we never really understood fashion, make-up, or understand why adults were always so frantic. We cared more for how long we would be allowed to play a video game, when our next play date was, or getting excited when your mom told you she would bring lunch today - which always meant McDonalds.
Suddenly, the years felt as if they flew by and you became a teen you were scared, and alone. Your thoughts consumed your time, and the hours of the day wasted away as you followed your daily routine of unhealthy habits. No one understood you.
You hated the way you looked, the way you felt. A first letter to yourself was created.
To my younger self,
I love you. I love your long thick hair, that shines a little red. I love your little brown eyes that glitter when you step on stage to dance. I love how adventurous you are, how you like to try every sport. Whenever you try something new, you somehow excel in whatever it is.
I know you like to stay quiet, I know you’re shy - but you are not as shy as you think you are! You take a more real outlook on life, and you don’t want to come off as fake. Good for you, but don’t be scared to talk to people because of that. And, although I say this, just know it is BOTH okay to be a listener or talker.
Be a real talker when you feel sad. Don’t bottle in the emotions. Don’t let these emotions be eventually taken out by yelling at your mom, your dad, your brother, or even a future boyfriend.
I know you like to spend a lot of time on your own. That is okay too. You need it. Everyone does. It gives you a boost of energy for another time.
Don’t get lost in the fear of the body changing as you grow. Don’t be scared when you have to start wearing training bras - it’s going to happen, embrace your body. I know you don’t want to grow, but becoming a woman is natural and you will still always be your parents little girl. But, to the world you have to be that woman who is powerful, walks with her head high, and embraces her roles.
You are delicate, but don’t let that stop your glow from disappearing - or let the fear being fat change that. Change is good. Change is great. Accept that change is apart of everything in life. Your body, your relationships, your job, your choices and your decisions.
You are also very smart, and you might not know it. When you care for something you really know how to put all your energy into it, but don’t fear the responsibilities as they grow for something like this - you can’t keep giving up on everything - don’t take anything for granted. Things come and go in the blink of an eye or the snap of a finger… treat each day like it is your last chance to be better.
You have so many goals. Don’t let the fear of not being in control, or not getting what you want - or not looking the way you want stop you from battling all your fears. Let go of the fears, laugh at them. Realize how silly they are!
You will learn that everyone has to cope with their feelings, some do better than others. But, you are able to take care of your own properly. I promise. Although your self esteem may be low. You got this.
If the thoughts continue, if you become aware of feelings you have never experienced and you don’t like them - ask for advice. If you are unable to speak, write it down. Look in the mirror and say it. Let yourself know you are beautiful, you are strong, you are going to achieve anything you set your mind too. If it is hard to convince yourself, there are people for that - don’t ever ignore help. Help does not make you weak or out of control. Help HELPS. Just please speak your heart right away.
The way you look doesn’t get you as far as you think - and don’t try and let it get farther. What good is that going to do you anyway? Your explanation for it is terrible. How you look is not going to ever ever ever be more important than your true self. Your’ personality, the jokes you make, the smile you effortlessly wear all the time - that is what is going to get you far. That is the personality that will keep your relationships healthy, your careers secure and your family at comfort.
Love, your older self.
Take a look back at the last couple of years. What advice would you give your younger self?
Now use that advice and take it with you into the future.